Fifth, we must not 10

by:黄集伟

to - Wang Hui-wen

when you encountered difficulties with the children together, they can refer to

5 to

• if necessary and possible, the large number of physical contact: the children, this stage, in shock, acute phase response, the major event, in a few seconds or a few hours within the next few months, do not hesitate to contact the body . But if the child has refused, not reluctantly;


• invited to use the language daily, to establish a relationship of trust, open talk about the possibility of simple, simple, or even repeat the very normal way, "you Lengbu Leng, ah, what you eat at noon";


• gift: chocolate, pen and paper; nutritional supplements; confidence-building that can be given care;


• if there is time, also allowed for the expression of the child: a special channel of communication, painting, to say the way a fairy tale;


• time to say farewell: If you need my help later, you can still come to see me, I am sad all the time. Can provide a unified telephone or address.

10 not

• not to deceive. If the children have parents died, or he cheated;


• not promise he can not do things. If not that similar "I will help you find your parents,"like it;


• recalled or not to force him to speak. For example, do not say "no, you say ah";


• not rude "interference"of his emotions, such as "Do not cry,""brave", "Kuba!"and so on, a sentiment he has his own way;


• not shown he is very pathetic, like the need to be sympathetic;


• Do not try to replace his parents, said, "It does not matter, we all love you"and let the children feel that they betrayed their parents;


• not give excessive, may cause dependence, or the feeling of being Qiannu charity, will vent anger to someone else;


• do not think that he is a savior, do not think that only they can help him and let him find rehabilitation of the first method, each activated the self-healing capacity;


• not cause their guilt. Survivors of the syndrome common confusion is: Why is my classmates died. Do not say "you are very lucky!""You have been much better than the others!"Such things.


• not to have experienced what he is full of curiosity, even if we love this child, we will Kongzhibuzhu own curiosity, because that would create "a second injury."

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